DURATION : 1 DAY
TIMINGS : 6 Hrs
FEES: Rs. 1000/- per person
We deliver this training of workshop if any institute arranges
Highlights and schedule of Workshop
• What is parenting
• Parenting patterns
• Expectations of parents from children
• 7 speed breakers in parenting
• Acceptance in parenting
• Healthy parenting
The parents expect their children to change in any situation instead of changing themselves. The parents are over concerned about their children’s future. They feel that if he/she is lying in such a little age, he/she is not studying well, it will affect his/her future, he/she will waste his life etc. These parents are surrounded with an aura of worries. Let us see what type of worries they face –
1) Will the differences between the parents affect their children?
2) What if one of the parents has some psychological disease?
3) Whether the financial condition of the parents is complimentary to the upbringing of the children?
4) Do parents or especially the father have any type of addiction?
5) Will differences, arguments or sometimes beating between the parents affect the child’s behavior?
6) If parents are ignorant about sexual knowledge or have a narrow view related to that, does this reflect in the children’s crazy behavior?
7) If one of the parents or both have remarried, then will it affect the child?
8) If the girl/boy is an adopted child, then can the parents handle him/her properly?
9) If the parents were not ready for a child at the time of the child’s birth and had unwillingly given birth to him/her, will that affect the child in his adolescent age?
10) Whether the parents create a neglected feeling in an child’s mind by differentiating between siblings?
11) If both the parents are working then do they pamper their children because of a guilt feeling?
12) Does one of the parents try to relieve his tensions and irritation on their children?
If parents are going through any of the above mentioned problems, then it becomes difficult for them to deal with children; because the changes in children are very normal and natural but parents are not in a mental state to understand and deal with these changes. So without any reluctance the parents should accept the way of counseling as this is going to help them and their children also. All the parents feel that development of their children should be proper but they are confused about the direction. Over all development of children includes physical, mental, social, cultural, intellectual and artistic development. If parents have definite views about it, then it can definitely give a boost to the development of the child’s personality.
Let us see some different patterns of parenting. Both the parents cannot come in the same category. Mother and father’s type of parenting can be different. It has a collective effect on the children. In the process of counseling, the counselor gives idea about their parenting pattern to both or one parent (if it is single parenting).
Patterns of Parenting/Parenting Patterns:
- Authoritarian Parenting: All family members are scared of these types of parents. These parents are stubborn about their position and want everybody to behave as per their orders. If a child doesn’t follow their rules then he/ she has to face the consequences. Children are very scared in their presence. This type of parenting can become a hurdle in the natural instinct and growth of the children. As children don’t have the right to take any decision, they become shy, sensitive and worried. They are always doubtful about their decisions and cannot mix up with others or do some fancy things. Even when they grow up, they cannot take their own decisions and are manner less.
- Permissive Parenting: These parents give too much freedom to their children. They don’t control them even in extreme situations and sometimes are over protective. They don’t let their children take small risks also. They treat their children with extra care and love which in turn leads to misbehaved and pampered children. Usually these parents are treated with authoritarian parenting in their childhood. They feel that whatever problems they have faced in their childhood should not be faced by their children. Their children become arrogant, careless, irresponsible, selfish and self centered. These children cannot take any responsibility or cannot adjust to any uncommon circumstances. Compromising in any situation is difficult for them.
- Uninvolved Parenting: These parents are neutral about the basic necessities or requirements of their children. In fact they are not prepared to take up the responsibility of parenting. They become parents due to some pressure or coincidence and have to fulfill the responsibility without their will. They don’t enjoy the role or don’t have any love or curiosity in the upbringing of their children. Sometimes they are so much involved in their own problems that they are not bothered about their children. In fact children are burdensome for them. They are not satisfied with their own life or are depressed because of problems in their life and so they cannot create a healthy atmosphere for their children. This leaves a deep impact on their children’s mind. They feel unwanted and their attitude becomes negative. These children may become very aggressive and repulsive. As they don’t get proper attention from their parents, they try to get it from others. They may show too much of arrogance or bitterness or become very shy and introvert.
- Authoritative Parenting: These parents are very much interested in the development of their children. They are conscious about the overall development of their child’s personality and try to understand the children’s point of view without forcing their own opinions on them. Neither do they interfere too much nor do they leave them unattended. Mutual communication and conversation is always there. The parents are aware of their children’s weak and strong points, limitations and so understand their children on factual basis and respect the feelings of their children. They don’t impose their own expectations on their children. They give them the required support, contribution and concern and help their children to become independent. All these things help the children to grow in a natural and normal way. They develop a helping nature, have social awareness, emotional stability and concern about others. They are honest, confident and can take their own decisions. These parents feel that children’s development is not just related to higher ranks but it includes physical, emotional, social, financial, intellectual, cultural and artistic growth. They insist on reading the newspaper daily, developing habit of reading, getting information about different subjects, developing hobbies and art, understanding financial transactions, expertise in some sport etc. In other words, they insist on an overall development of their children but still don’t force anything on them.